19. Buy a couch

“Home is the nicest word there is.” – Laura Ingells Wilder

I knew exactly what I was looking for: a gray couch with the kind of starchy/stiff fabric that wouldn’t show stains and last a long time. A sofa that looks nice but not super trendy that could be delivered to my third-floor apartment. Nothing fluffy or frilly. I had a price range (which is none of your business, Internet). So I thought it would be a matter of going to the store and finding it.

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To be fair, I did get really lucky. But I’m also a notoriously indecisive shopper (and human). So the two stores I visited did take up several hours. I did research on furniture brands and stores in Indy. The first store we went to was fine, and I found several good options, but just never made it back.

A couple weekends later, we happened to be by Urban Underpriced. Online it seemed like an upscale store that wouldn’t have enough options for me, but I thought it’d be fun to browse. After walking through the store, we ended up in a back corner between two couches that, although different, both seemed perfect for me. So I, and my super-patient boyfriend, spent at least an hour sitting on them back and forth, making pro and con lists (I know, I’m the worst to go shopping with). Then we found out there was a big sale that weekend, which mad it harder to decide.

We left for lunch, thinking I’d need to sleep on it. After a couple hours of other errands, I was ready for another look. We came back and returned to the corner. I thought I’d decided on the less expensive, more comfortable, but less durable, of the two options. But as soon as I sat on the other one I was back to making the same mental arguments…

Erik went around the corner (probably to escape the same pro-con list for the hundredth time), when he asked me to come look at another couch he found. At first I didn’t even want to see it, because the last thing I needed was a third option to throw in the mix.

But as soon as I came around the corner, I could tell this couch was the perfect combination of what I liked in the two others that I’d been debating between all afternoon. It came in the shade of gray I wanted, had the durable fabric texture I liked, and had a nice, classic look. Within ten minutes, it was decided, and I was a new couch owner!

Plus the sale meant I could afford to buy a loveseat too, so RIP to the old futon I’ve had since sophomore year of college (which also recently literally RIPped), and hello new adult furniture!

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3. Write for fun

“If I waited for perfection, I would never write a word.” – Margaret Atwood

Okay, so it turns out, that this blog hasn’t actually been as fun as I thought. And there are probably several of reasons for that — being busy, not having a real deadline or public audience makes it harder to sit down and write, but also, I just like not having to fill my free time back up.

When I came up with the idea for this blog, I thought, now that I’m settled with a full-time job, I want to get back into a routine like I had in school, filling my time with activities and setting goals for self-improvement. And I’m glad I did both of those things. But I definitely didn’t have to. Because it’s so nice to just come home after work and not do anything — and not feel guilty because there isn’t anything I have to do! After two decade of homework and extra-curricular activities, I’m not surprised that my brain felt the need to immediately fill my calendar back up again. I haven’t found a perfect balance, and even though I haven’t been as successful at achieving all of the 25 in 25 goals I set for myself (although I’m not 26 yet, so there’s still time), I’m still glad to have made the effort to focus on what I actually want to focus on, instead of only what’s assigned or what would best fit on a résumé.

However, I still have found a couple other ways to write for fun beyond these sporadic blog posts:

  1. I’ve been writing in a happiness journal that has weekly list prompts from “List what makes you happy right now” to “List ten ways to get excited in the next ten minutes.” I’m not caught up on this one either, but I’ve been trying to fill out a list every day to finish it by the end of 2018.
  2. I also am using one of my own small notebooks as a gratitude journal. I started doing that a couple years ago while I was in grad school, just writing a word or phrase to note something I was grateful for that day, even if it was a snack or a great episode of Parks and Rec (though, aren’t they all?).
  3. I’ve also started adding cards to everyone’s birthday and Christmas presents, writing an actual note about why I’m excited to celebrate them. These are my favorite little writing projects. I don’t love writing about myself, but I do love writing about why I love other people!

Though I haven’t been as consistent about any of these writing projects as I would like, I do feel great after I work on them. I do write a lot at work, so I don’t feel a strong need to exercise a writing muscle outside of the office, but writing in different ways is fun and relaxing, so I will definitely continue with these projects.

5. Meditate daily

“One conscious breath in and out is meditation.”

The first time I meditated was for an assignment in a Buddhism class I took in college. We were supposed to meditate for five minutes, and then write a short reflection about the experience. I actually really liked it, so I’ve tried to do more meditation ever since.

A couple of years ago, I started using apps for guided meditation, and the best one for me has been Simple Habit. This app has more free content than others I’ve tried, and it’s also a little gamified, giving you badges for reaching certain milestones (like meditating every day for a month, or for 100 days straight, etc.). The point isn’t to beat a personal record or keep a streak going, of course, but just that small tracker is enough to help me make time for meditating for a few minutes almost every day.

I especially like to use a meditation app before I go to sleep because it helps me clear out my mind of all the thoughts that would otherwise be swirling around and keeping me awake for much longer. Does it work perfectly every day? No. But I like it as a way to unwind and relax before trying to sleep.

Using these apps isn’t the only way I’ve tried to work meditation into my daily routine. Simply focusing on breathing has been really helpful in stressful or nervous situations, like waiting for a doctor’s appointment or feeling a migraine coming on. Trying not to panic right away and instead, breathing in for several seconds, holding it for a couple seconds, and breathing out for several seconds, while counting, has actually helped me relax, when I otherwise might have made my headache or stress worse.

So I hope to keep my current streak going, and actually dedicate a few minutes to guided meditation every day. But even if I don’t open an app today, I can always turn my attention to breathing, and feel more calm and focused. Doing so doesn’t always eliminate a problem or stressor, but it has become my favorite way to start the problem-solving.

24. Visit a new state

“I haven’t been everywhere, but it’s on my list.”

When I made this list, I didn’t have a set plan for how to achieve this one, but I thought it would be a good goal to set. Little did I know, waaaay back when I was just barely 25, I got to mark this one off the list more than once!

Wisconsin: Technically, I had been in Wisconsin before this year, but only for part of the day to one organization while on a mission trip. So I decided not to count that one, and use my grad school friend’s wedding in Milwaukee as my real Wisconsin experience instead! And it was wonderful.

The weather was a little cold (there was still leftover snow in late April), and the wedding was beautiful. Some friends and I went to MKE a day early and toured the Miller brewery, which was huge and felt like its own factory neighborhood. We also ate a whole lot of cheese. Between the wedding and reception on Saturday, and then again on Sunday, we went to the Public Market, which had a ton of booths with food, drinks, souvenirs, but mostly more beer and cheese. Overall, Milwaukee was really fun and pretty, and I’d be happy to visit Wisconsin again! Just definitely not in the winter.


Arizona: I got to travel to Phoenix for a work event in July, which was very exciting! That was my first real work trip and first time flying alone. I took a vacation day to explore this new terrain while I was there, and if I liked Phoenix in the middle of July, then I’m sure I’d love it when the temperature isn’t above 100 degrees every day…

My favorite part of the trip was exploring the Desert Botanical Garden (which happened to have free admission on the first day of the trip!). I spent around 5 hours there, just wandering around among all kinds of plants I’ve never seen before (also lots of lizards, tiny little ground squirrels, and one big snake). It was so crazy to see giant cacti just growing on the side of the road, and dozens of different kinds of aloe I never knew existed. It was gorgeous, and I would definitely go back if I’m ever in PHX again.

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13. Go for walks in my neighborhood

“Bloom where you’re planted.”

This list item might be my very favorite. One of the reasons I fell in love with my apartment was that it was in a really cool neighborhood – about a mile from Broad Ripple, and even closer to a few restaurants and shops. I loved the idea of being able to walk somewhere to eat or have a store across the street to go when I realize I need a couple ingredients at the last minute.

Also surrounding my apartment are a variety of different kinds of houses (which I may have mentioned I love to look at). So I was excited to add this list item to get me wandering through this neighborhood when the weather is nice. Plus, I got a Fitbit for my birthday, and will take any excuse to listen to a podcast.

In the fall, I would pick a direction from my apartment and just walk for awhile, and then either turn around, or make a big square to come home. That was an easy strategy so I didn’t have to pay to close attention to a route, and could focus on checking out the gorgeous houses around me, or on whatever podcast I picked that day. Picking different directions each time has helped me learn my way around my neighborhood better, and find a whole lot of places I never knew were so close!

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One of my favorite colorful buildings nearby. I always catch myself staring at it. Would it be weird to paint my future house like this???

It took me an embarrassingly long time to realize that I was also really close to an opening on the Monon Trail, which would make going for a walk feel more like a hike than wandering on people’s sidewalks. So recently, I’ve been walking to the Monon, and then picking a direction from its intersection with the street. One goes through downtown Broad Ripple, so if I want to walk down there for food or a yoga class (AKA get extra steps and avoid parking), then I go one way, and if I want to switch it up and see a ton of public art, I go the other (see cool picture above of the Monon Love Train).

Now that it’s ridiculously hot outside, I’ve liked walking first thing in the morning on Saturdays, or on weekday evenings. But if I walk on the Monon, I’m at least shaded by trees, so that makes a long walk more bearable.

I don’t really have anything insightful to say, but I just love walking around my neighborhood, and other areas in Indy. I definitely feel spoiled in my current spot, so whenever I’m ready to look for somewhere new to live, “cool stuff to walk to” will be on the list of requirements.

22. Try 5 different networking events

“Ask for what you want, and be prepared to get it.” – Maya Angelou

I like my job, and small talk makes me a little anxious. But I knew setting a goal to try new events was an important list item because I am still new to working life, and want to learn more about other people’s jobs, and about Indy. So here we go!

  1. I have gone to a couple events sponsored by Indy’s chapter of the Young Nonprofit Professionals Network (YNPN), and I’ve always enjoyed them. They organize service projects and discussions around relevant topics like navigating a gap year or transitioning between sectors. In December, they had an event at Bent Rail Brewery, which is just a couple blocks from my apartment. They had lots of supplies for us to make cards to give to kids at a local organization. They even had a studio set up to take free headshots for everyone. I definitely plan to go to more of their events in the future!

  2. I also went to a happy hour at the The Ball and Biscuit, organized by a former supervisor, with other women who work in nonprofits. I really enjoyed talking with new people about their work, and their life in Indy. A few of the attendees were either looking for a home, or had recently purchased one, so I was fascinated by such an ~adult~ topic. It also made me glad I’m not looking for a home just yet because it sounds like houses are going crazy fast around here. Which is a good thing, just not when you want to take your time with a giant financial decision.

  3. In June, I went to IndyVolved at the Central Library, which is just a few blocks from work, so I could walk! (I really need to get moving on #21 learn to parallel park…) I’ve been to this event before, so it was an easy one to check out again. IndyHub brings nonprofits of all kinds, from all across the city, to set up in the library as a kind of expo to help you get involved. In years past, I went, but wasn’t looking for anything in particular, but this year, I came in wanting to talk with organizations about weekly tutoring/volunteering programs that I had been researching online, and I did that! It was nice to talk to real people at the organizations, to get a better sense of what the program would be like, which made me more motivated to actually fill out the online applications I already knew existed. This event is always a cool reminder that Indy is full of cool organizations and tons of other people interested in getting involved and improving the community!…so maybe I should talk to more people next time.

  4. I went to a financial literacy event organized by YNPN this summer that was so helpful, and actually made me feel like I was doing better than I thought! The presenter was a financial planner who gave good advice, and came with a handout we filled out along the way. So we each left with a start to an individualized financial plan.

7. Start saving for a house

“Home is the nicest word there is.” – Laura Ingells Wilder, author

I love houses. I was in love with Trading Spaces when I was younger. (Is that a weird favorite show for a fifth grader? Probably.) And HGTV shows were my favorite background noise in grad school (so glad they’re on Netflix and Hulu so I’m not missing out by not having cable!). Plus, there’s even an HGTV show in Indy, so even the b roll shots are fun to watch because I can recognize most of them!

Side note: the photo above is of a house I pass on my way home, and I really like the bright front door. Yes, it’s probably weird that I took a picture, but that felt less weird that posting a random photo from the internet…

Anyways, I’m so excited to one day have a house of my own. But they are very expensive and I am not quite there yet. So, I liked the idea of just committing to saving for a house this year, even if that’s just the very first step.

Actually achieving this list item was pretty easy. I had opened a savings account with my new Indy bank, but had kept my main savings in other places. I hadn’t decided what to do with this new account, but just thought I’d want one at a bank with local branches.

After a few months, I noticed that I kept getting charged small fees on that account, but I hadn’t even touched it! Turns out, that was the problem. One of the requirements to avoid the fees was making monthly deposits to the account of at least $25. So I’d been charged every month for not doing that.

So, I decided to make that small account my house-saving! It already had my initial deposit, and I set up an automatic monthly payment of $25. I know that’s a very small step, but saving regularly, even for just a few years, will add up!

So, that’s one list item done, and now I can get back to filling my Pinterest boards with daydreams about my future house.

8. Try a new recipe every month

October: Tried to recreate a mac & cheese that my mom found in the local newspaper awhile ago. I love all of the flavors included (like mustard powder and cayenne pepper), but the sauce didn’t thicken quite right. Still didn’t have trouble finishing off the leftovers.


November: Tried a new mac & cheese as my contribution for our family’s Thanksgiving meal (yes I really do eat other foods; but trying new mac & cheese recipes fills 2 list items, so no regrets). This one was an Italian Three-Cheese Macaroni from a mac & cheese cookbook I once got as a gift. This recipe is similar, but I left out the tomatoes. This recipe was delicious, and I would definitely make it again. It fits my desired balance of more interesting flavors than plain macaroni, but not too fancy.


December: This month, I made Christmas Light Cookies that I found on Pinterest. They were a little more complicated than I was ready for, but I did save some time by getting the small tube of black icing for drawing the light cords instead of making that icing from scratch. I realized halfway through making them that I didn’t have any cookie cutters, so I used a wine glass…but the messy shape or decorations on a cookie don’t matter as much as the taste, and they tasted delicious.


January: I made another easy recipe I found on Pinterest: Slow Cooker Salsa Chicken. I somehow made it to age 25 without really learning how to cook meet, so this was the perfect, easiest recipe to try. It literally takes two ingredients: chicken breasts and salsa. I used my immersion blender to smooth out the salsa texture (which is not a required step for normal people that can stand those chunky textures). After cooking in the crockpot for a few hours, you just shred the chicken, and it’s great for nachos, salads, quesadillas, tacos, anything! Easy leftovers too. I have made this recipe a few times since, and I’m hungry just thinking about it.


February: Okay technically Erik made this one, but since my goal says try new recipes (not necessarily make), I’m going to count this one. He made chili, which I don’t like, but couldn’t remember if/when I’d actually tried it, so we decided to do an experiment. I like the smell and flavors in chili, but can’t get past the texture (moving on from how weird I know that is). So, when the chili was ready, I scooped out a bowl full and used my immersion blender (my favorite appliance) to smooth out the texture. In theory, this plan makes sense. In practice, it’s gross and has the texture of cat food. Was edible as a sort of dip with chips. But will not be trying again, but I have at least confirmed that chili is not a food for me.


March: Okay this post is getting embarrassing because I’m not an adventurous eater or cook….which is my way of introducing the fact that the only new recipe I could remember making in March was rice. No idea why I hadn’t thought to ever make it before, but it’s very easy, and there are lots of quick options like this tasty creamy chicken flavor. Nothing else interesting to say here.


April: This month I tried another recipe from my mom, that I guess would be called Parmesan Ranch Chicken. I mixed in a bowl: 1 package of ranch seasoning, 1 cup cereal crumbs (who knew that’s a thing you could buy?), and 1/2 cup Parmesan cheese. I used that mixture to cover chicken breasts and bake (350 for an hour). This is definitely my favorite recipe that I’ve tried so far! I liked baked chicken with different spices, but I missed the crunch of having more breading, so the cereal crumbs were perfect, and the ranch and Parmesan are just delicious together. I know these are not culinary innovations, but hey, at least I’m not still talking about mac & cheese.


May: This month’s new recipe might be my favorite one so far: popsicles! My mom (the real MVP of this post) gave me a set of popsicle molds and a can of diced mango the last time I was #homesweethome, suggesting that just blending and freezing the mango was delicious. So, over steamy Memorial Day weekend, I pulled out my trusty immersion blender, and blended the full can of mangoes to smooth perfection, and added about a tablespoon of a honey-lime mixture (I got it from a fruit salad recipe a few years ago, but I use for regular salad dressing now, too!). Then, I just poured the mixture into the set of 6 popsicle molds (and it made the perfect amount), and set them in the freezer. Oh my gosh. These are delicious and so easy! The first batch disappeared quickly, so I’ve already tried it with a can of peaches, and added some honey and flax seed, just to see if it’d be noticeable. While you can see the specks, all you’re really tasting is the fruity, juicy goodness. 100/100 will keep making all summer.


June: Earlier this month, I tried another mac and cheese recipe (I know, I know, but it hits 2 list items, and also I love mac and cheese), but this one was not my favorite. The recipe was from a cookbook and I can’t find a great link, but it had bacon and cauliflower, and used some spices, cream cheese, cheddar, gruyere, and Parmesan cheeses. I’m not sure what exactly I didn’t like. Maybe I would’ve liked it more with just cheddar? Maybe I could’ve cooked the bacon longer so it’d be crispier? Regardless, this one took a long time to make, it tasted weird, and was worse as leftovers. To be fair, Erik really liked this one, so it’s very possible that this was a good recipe, but just not for me. The road to the perfect mac and cheese continues.


July: This month, I tried Cajun chicken. I had made the spice mix in a set for Christmas gifts (I think this is the mix I made), and tried some for myself. Just cover both sides of a chicken breast with the spice mix, and bake at 350 degrees for an hour. Pretty good! I like the spicy flavor without the chunky texture of a salsa. Good with rice (that I started making with chicken broth instead of water, on the recommendation of my mom, the best cook I know!).


 

25 in 25: The List

“Wherever you are, be all there.” – Jim Elliott, missionary and author

I love lists. My planner, phone, and brain are full of them. Lists help me organize my thoughts and my time — both of which seem much harder to do without the set schedule of being a student.

Ever since I moved to Indianapolis for grad school (in August 2015), I’ve made lists of things I want to do, to try to make the most of my time in town. I’ve graduated and gotten a real-life full-time job here, so now these lists are ways to help me feel like I actually live in Indy — not just temporarily as a student.

In the weeks leading up to my 25th birthday (September 18, for those who don’t have it memorized), I also started thinking about how to commemorate what felt like a big milestone. Since I’ve been keeping all kinds of lists anyways, I thought a 25 things to do in my 25th year list would be a fun way to make the most of my time, my energy, and my new home.

So, here’s my official 25 in 25 list! I plan to write a post for each item as I start/complete them (and will link to those posts below). Of course, I don’t need a blog to do any of these things. But I think pretending like I have an audience will help me feel accountable to meet the goals I’ve set for myself. Plus, this blog helps me accomplish item #3: write for fun. So that’s one down, 24 to go! I’m looking forward to a fun, inspiring, and busy year!

  1. Volunteer regularly
  2. Join a yoga studio
  3. Write for fun
  4. Understand football
  5. Meditate daily
  6. Build (and hopefully stick to) a budget
  7. Start saving for a house
  8. Try a new recipe every month
  9. Find five new ways to go green
  10. Read six new books
  11. Practice photography
  12. Go hiking
  13. Go for walks in my neighborhood
  14. Try something new in Indy every month
  15. Develop exercise routine
  16. Learn calligraphy
  17. Find a new church
  18. Perfect a macaroni and cheese recipe
  19. Buy a couch
  20. Learn how to change a tire
  21. Learn how to parallel park
  22. Learn basic sewing
  23. Try five different networking events
  24. Visit a new state
  25. Participate in local politics